A Family Tale: Learning About Your History

Family Portrait - Montreal 1963 

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Fascinating tales of the past from around the world fill countless books and capture our imaginations. How many tales could you tell just by delving into your own family’s history? The study of family history, or, genealogy, is a tradition that goes back centuries, and it’s uncovering stories of your own history that make it an exciting family adventure.

Genealogy 101

 

The easiest way to begin your own genealogy is to start with a basic family tree, or, pedigree chart. Starting with you, write in all the names of your relatives that you can remember. Whether you start exploring your father’s side of the tree or your mother’s is up to you; but after you’ve filled in what you know, it’s time to find out what you don’t. Take a look at all the ways you can flesh out your own family’s story:

 

  1. Talk to relatives. Family members can be great resources for genealogical information. Your cousin may know names you don’t, and your great-grandfather may have fascinating stories to share. Bring a tape recorder and a notepad and interview your family members.
  2. Look through your home. Marriage and birth certificates, obituaries, family bibles, old photographs—anything that can provide names, places, and dates will help you delve deeper into your familial past.
  3. Take it online. Online you’ll find extensive genealogy databases where you can search for family names and records.
  4. Use software. Genealogy software will help you keep track of and organize all your information.

 

So, are you related to someone famous? Was a relative a witness to a historical event? You’ll never know until you begin your family’s story

Helping Children Develop Close Relationships with Grandparents

With the world becoming smaller with air travel and the Internet, many children are moving away from where they grew up and consequently are raising their children far away. This may lead to grandchildren not feeling very close to their grandparents. Here are some ideas for how to keep children close even with geographically you live far away from your parents.

Keep Lots of Pictures

Be sure that there are plenty of pictures nearby that your kids can look at of their grandparents, especially pictures of them with their grandparents. Even if they don’t remember the visit, at least the pictures will remind them that they had fun with their grandparents.

Talk about Grandparents Often

Share stories about your parents with your kids. This could include things that happened to them while growing up or stories about their last visit. Knowing more about your parents will help your kids feel closer to them.

Chat Online

With web cams, you can have your kids chat with their grandparents through Skype and other online programs. Being able to see their grandparents while they’re talking will help them feel closer and recognize them the next time they come to visit.

Let Grandparents Have One-on-One Time

When the grandparents visit, or when you go visit them, be sure that your parents get a chance to be with each child one-on-one. This could be a simple thing like going for a walk or going out to dinner. Just by making cookies together, when you’re not around, the two of them can bond.

No matter the distance, be sure to make an effort to develop relationships between grandparents and grandchildren.

Using Technology to Bond with Grandparents

My Grandparents Bill & Binkie Loxton in the 19...

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Many children move away from where they grew up as they become adults and start their own families. Unfortunately, it’s not often possible for parents to move closer to where their children end up living because of jobs and finances. So what can be done to help these grandparents develop close relationships with their grandchildren? The answer is technology.

Web Cams

One of the best ways to connect with grandchildren is by talking over the Internet using web cams. These devices allow you to see the person you’re talking to, which means a lot more than a voice over the phone. Grandchildren will be able to recognize what their grandparents look like so when they seem them next, they won’t be shy because they’ll be used to seeing them on the computer. Best of all, it’s cheap — there are programs that are free to use if you have Internet.

Emails

Another way to stay bonded through technology is with emails. Having your kids compose letters to their grandparents letting them know what happened that way is a great way to bond. Don’t forget to include digital pictures along with the email.

Social Media

Another great way to stay connected is with social media where you can post pictures and give little details of your life through status updates. Your parents will feel connected as you share what happened to your kids that day with a quick status update. If you have a smartphone, you can do this quickly, easily, and often.

Though you may live far apart, technology can help you feel more connected. Of course, visits will help as well!

Have We Become More Materialistc

Many peoplethink that the generations that came before us were more materialistic. Generations before us placed a great amount of meaning on their homes and cars, furniture and appliances. Today, people pride themselves on the minimalist theory. Claim that they do not need anything to survive. However, I think that the reverse is true. I think our society has grown up in a world where materialism is covered up by the minimalist theory. Then there are others within our society that are proud that they are materialistic and work to support their lifestyle.

I can remember that my grandparents only had one car that only my grandfather knew how to drive. When my younger brother and I learned how to drive there were four cars parked in my parent’s driveway. My grandparents had two children, the same as my parents, and yet the entire family survived with only owning one car. Somehow, our generation with the need to have our own schedules and everyone being too busy to help out anyone else by giving them a ride, seems much more materialistic.

My grandma talked of the day that she got her first washer and dryer. Being from a small town in Colorado sure made doing laundry hard. Now, I cannot imagine living an apartment that did not offer laundry services. You could say that having modern amenities has made us use to having them, they are readily available. But it is more than that. I would not chose to live somewhere that did not offer the amenities. I am more materialistic than I think any woman who came before me in my family line.

I know friends who do not own a car but have a 50 inch TV, which seems very materialistic to me. I believe that we are more materialistic because we except to have things where generations before worked for them.