The Top Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage

Between overscheduled social calendars, crippling financial demands and a major collective shortage of quality time, it’s almost no wonder that America’s divorce rate recently surpassed 50 percent. We live in a wedding-obsessed culture, yet more than half of people getting married today will be divorced before their 10th anniversary. It’s a seriously depressing statistic, but thankfully, one that we can change if we’re willing to put forth the effort.

It’s no secret that money and finances are often the biggest wedges in an otherwise happy marriage. In fact, seemingly small disagreements over budget can ultimately lead to giant feuds, and often separation.

Money is a hypersensitive issue, and a particularly tricky monster to tackle, especially within the delicate balance of love and marriage. That’s why it’s crucially important to reach a mutual understanding about money expectations before you walk down the aisle. And in the event that an unexpected expense pops up in the course of your marriage, seeking financial assistance from plaingreenloans can save you financially and personally. Even though you have a financial safety net, it’s important to straighten out these top three money and communication disasters that can ultimately threaten your happy marriage.

Confront the Little Things

You don’t mind when your fiancé or husband comes home with take-out for dinner, until he starts doing it three times a week. Even little issues like overspending on food or the occasional treat become huge obstacles if you’re not clear about your expectations from the very beginning.

It can be embarrassing to talk frankly about money at the start of your marriage, but those $10 take-out containers can add up to one giant credit card bill that you’ll be working to pay off for years.

 Honesty is the Best Policy – Really!

 Be honest – those brand new stilettos were not on sale! You lusted after them from afar for weeks, until you finally took the plunge and put them on your joint credit card.

Little white lies about spending can seem harmless, but if you’re using shared funds to impulse-buy, your significant other will eventually find out – and loose trust in your ability to budget.

 Lending to Family

Even if you and your partner are financially secure and confident in your future, lending spare cash to family or friends is a slippery slope right into financial ruin. Exercise your best character judgment when considering an interest-free loan to your loved ones, and don’t count on ever seeing that money returned.

Lending money without your husband or wife’s approval or consent is the quickest way to breed resentment within your marriage – so try to avoid any unnecessary financial stress!

Avoiding these nasty money-related pitfalls is a crucial step to improving your relationship, and ultimately, your lifelong marriage – but do you think we left anything off our list? Do you have any budget-related tips to share?

Father’s Day Shopping In The U.S.

Gift shopping isn’t always our strong suits- even when it comes down to shopping for Father’s day. Father’s day (and Mother’s day) are two holidays that you start seeing tons of sales for in advance. So what exactly are people shopping for each year for dad? What kind of Father’s day gifts are being bought for the dad who loves sports? What on earth do you buy a dad who loves cars (that is actually in your budget and not cheesy?) Take a look at these stats. Maybe you’ll get some fresh ideas.

Could It Be an Eating Disorder? Help the One You Love

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Everyone values beauty. We see beauty everyday: in nature, in art, in clothing, in people, and in ourselves. Everyone has a different idea of what they consider beauty to be, but many women aren’t happy with what they see in the mirror. Some will take their quest for beauty so far that it will lead to an eating disorder.

 

Is It Her? Is It You?

 

The National Eating Disorders Association estimates that over 10 million females have an eating disorder, and 40 percent are under 19. Could someone you know be among those millions? Know the signs:

 

She Could Be Anorexic If…

  • She’s preoccupied with food, calories, dieting, and weight, insomuch that they have become a primary concern;
  • She talks frequently about being fat, losing weight, or dissatisfaction with her body;
  • She refuses foods or entire groups and denies her hunger;
  • She fidgets with food on her plate, eats food in specific orders, or avoids mealtimes or situations involving food altogether.

She Could Be Bulimic If…

  • She exhibits the first two signs of anorexia;
  • She makes excuses to leave after a meal and goes into the bathroom soon after eating;
  • She exhibits indications of vomiting like bad breath and watery eyes;
  • You find laxatives or their wrappers;
  • She eats large amounts of food or is quickly hungry again after meals;
  • Her cheeks and jaws have become swollen or her teeth have discoloration or new damage.

 

Save a Life

 

If you think it’s an eating disorder, seek advice on ways to help; you could very well save a life. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; let your eyes see your beauty.

A Family Tale: Learning About Your History

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Fascinating tales of the past from around the world fill countless books and capture our imaginations. How many tales could you tell just by delving into your own family’s history? The study of family history, or, genealogy, is a tradition that goes back centuries, and it’s uncovering stories of your own history that make it an exciting family adventure.

Genealogy 101

 

The easiest way to begin your own genealogy is to start with a basic family tree, or, pedigree chart. Starting with you, write in all the names of your relatives that you can remember. Whether you start exploring your father’s side of the tree or your mother’s is up to you; but after you’ve filled in what you know, it’s time to find out what you don’t. Take a look at all the ways you can flesh out your own family’s story:

 

  1. Talk to relatives. Family members can be great resources for genealogical information. Your cousin may know names you don’t, and your great-grandfather may have fascinating stories to share. Bring a tape recorder and a notepad and interview your family members.
  2. Look through your home. Marriage and birth certificates, obituaries, family bibles, old photographs—anything that can provide names, places, and dates will help you delve deeper into your familial past.
  3. Take it online. Online you’ll find extensive genealogy databases where you can search for family names and records.
  4. Use software. Genealogy software will help you keep track of and organize all your information.

 

So, are you related to someone famous? Was a relative a witness to a historical event? You’ll never know until you begin your family’s story

A Healthy Beginning: Nutrition for the Mom-to-Be

Expectant moms know the adage: you’re eating for two now. Growing children need nutritional food to sustain their rapid growth, and that includes a child who may now be no bigger than your thumb. So does that mean you can scarf down two Big Macs now? You may now find yourself driven by pints of rocky road or bags of potato chips, but making healthy food choices is essential for your baby’s health and yours.

 

Healthy Pregnancy Musts

 

Health experts have concluded that there are nutrient musts every pregnant mother should include in her diet regularly. Growing babies—and mothers!—require the benefits provided by certain foods or supplements, now in slightly greater amounts:

 

  • Folic acid, or folate: An essential pregnancy nutrient found in leafy greens, fortified breads and cereals, and supplements.
  • Vitamin C: Found in strawberries, orange juice, and broccoli.
  • Vitamin D: Found in cooked fish, milk, and fortified orange juice.
  • Iron: Found in meat, lentils, beans, ad fortified breads and cereals.
  • Iodine: Found in iodized salt.

 

Pregnancy websites are excellent sources for detailed descriptions on necessary nutrients, their functions, and ways to incorporate them into your diet. Natal vitamins provide additional nutrition. Speak to your doctor for advice on getting the right amount of nutrients; some women may have different needs than generally recommended.

 

Your Baby’s Health and You

 

Many of the food choices you make will affect the health of your baby. It’s important to know that large amounts of vitamin A, soft cheese, raw or undercooked egg and poultry, and alcohol should be avoided during pregnancy. And don’t forget that exercise! A healthy you will help your baby too.

Summer Traditions: Strengthening the Family

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With summer fast approaching, it’s time for the end of school and for summer plans to begin. Many parents get bogged down by the summer. At first it’s great — a time for sleeping in and avoiding the day-to-day school routine that becomes monotonous of making school lunch, getting to the bus on time, and picking kids up at the end of the day.

It’s nice to have a break. The problem is that soon having the kids home all day becomes overwhelming. So what can you do? Try creating some summer traditions that keep the kids busy and happy and keep your house from being destroyed.

Local Activities

The first things to look for are some local activities. The best are ones that can be repeated over and over without your kids getting too bored. These could be things like zoos, water parks, amusement parks, museums, a local pool, and more. Where possible, look into buying season passes. These will typically save a lot of money, especially if you buy them before the season begins — around April.

Vacations and Trips

Another tradition that you can start with your family is taking trips that are further away. One of the best locations is a lake that isn’t too far away — probably one that takes only two to six hours to drive to — and rent a cabin. This could be something you do every summer whether for only a week or for a month or more.

What’s great about these activities is it’s a way for the family to bond while having a lot of fun.

Helping Children Develop Close Relationships with Grandparents

With the world becoming smaller with air travel and the Internet, many children are moving away from where they grew up and consequently are raising their children far away. This may lead to grandchildren not feeling very close to their grandparents. Here are some ideas for how to keep children close even with geographically you live far away from your parents.

Keep Lots of Pictures

Be sure that there are plenty of pictures nearby that your kids can look at of their grandparents, especially pictures of them with their grandparents. Even if they don’t remember the visit, at least the pictures will remind them that they had fun with their grandparents.

Talk about Grandparents Often

Share stories about your parents with your kids. This could include things that happened to them while growing up or stories about their last visit. Knowing more about your parents will help your kids feel closer to them.

Chat Online

With web cams, you can have your kids chat with their grandparents through Skype and other online programs. Being able to see their grandparents while they’re talking will help them feel closer and recognize them the next time they come to visit.

Let Grandparents Have One-on-One Time

When the grandparents visit, or when you go visit them, be sure that your parents get a chance to be with each child one-on-one. This could be a simple thing like going for a walk or going out to dinner. Just by making cookies together, when you’re not around, the two of them can bond.

No matter the distance, be sure to make an effort to develop relationships between grandparents and grandchildren.

Using Technology to Bond with Grandparents

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Many children move away from where they grew up as they become adults and start their own families. Unfortunately, it’s not often possible for parents to move closer to where their children end up living because of jobs and finances. So what can be done to help these grandparents develop close relationships with their grandchildren? The answer is technology.

Web Cams

One of the best ways to connect with grandchildren is by talking over the Internet using web cams. These devices allow you to see the person you’re talking to, which means a lot more than a voice over the phone. Grandchildren will be able to recognize what their grandparents look like so when they seem them next, they won’t be shy because they’ll be used to seeing them on the computer. Best of all, it’s cheap — there are programs that are free to use if you have Internet.

Emails

Another way to stay bonded through technology is with emails. Having your kids compose letters to their grandparents letting them know what happened that way is a great way to bond. Don’t forget to include digital pictures along with the email.

Social Media

Another great way to stay connected is with social media where you can post pictures and give little details of your life through status updates. Your parents will feel connected as you share what happened to your kids that day with a quick status update. If you have a smartphone, you can do this quickly, easily, and often.

Though you may live far apart, technology can help you feel more connected. Of course, visits will help as well!

Rewards for Losing Weight

It’s no secret that the modern lifestyle has led to increased obesity. The problem has gotten so bad that many doctors refer to it as an epidemic. Setting a rewards system for losing weight, however, might encourage you to make major changes in your lifestyle so that you can lose weight.

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Set Goals and Celebrate Them

In order to reward yourself for losing weight, you will need to establish a few goals. For instance you might reward yourself for

  • Getting one hour of exercise every day for a week.
  • Losing ten pounds.
  • Avoiding dessert for a month.
  • Replacing high-calorie, high-fat snacks with fruit for a week.

Reward Yourself for Meeting Your Goals

Create a list of rewards that appeal to you. That way, you can choose something that feels like a true reward whenever you reach one of your goals. If you have a hard time deciding what type of goal to set, then use a service like Canada 411 to browse various restaurants and entertainment options in your area.

A few examples that you might want to consider include

  • Going to a movie
  • Taking a weekend trip out-of-town
  • Buying yourself something you’ve wanted such as clothes or jewelry
  • Throwing a party

Now that you have made a list that includes your goals and your rewards, you can consult them whenever you need a little extra motivation. This makes it easier for you see what you get for all of your hard work and sacrifice. Whenever you need a little boost, just pull out your lists and think about what reward you will get next.

Cricket Makes it on Working Mother Magazine’s Best Places to Work List

Many companies try to get on the list of the “Best Places to Work” that is put out by Working Mother Magazine. Most companies do not make it on this list, but this year, Cricket did. There are many things that a company must do to receive this honor, and Cricket is one company that can bring it all together in a great package.

You may know this company from their offerings of a prepaid blackberry phone package. Not only do they do their best to offer great benefits and incentives to their customers, but they do great things for their employees, as well. With promotions from within – all the way from hourly to management – and then up to executives, this company offers great long-term opportunities to their employees.

Cricket won this honor through a variety of great offerings to their employees. Most companies today only offer medical insurance to those employees that work 40 hours a week, but Cricket offers it to those that work 30 hours or more. They also like to make sure that their employees stay as healthy as possible, and offer health assessment tools that their employees can take advantage of. Gym membership facilities are subsidized by the company as well, so those who wish to stay fit can easily do this, with the blessing of the company.

If you are looking for a great company to be a part of, or trying to deal with a company that deals well with its employees, Cricket is a great option. You will have great experiences with this company, and its employees.